Unexplained Infertility: Stephanie’s Story [JOURNEY UPDATE]

79: Unexplained Infertility [JOURNEY UPDATE]

Today’s Guest:

Today’s journey update is from a woman named Stephanie, who you might remember from Episode 36. She and her husband are an adventurous couple who met in college. In fact, they spent their honeymoon at a Mount Everest base camp. After trying on their own for a year, they started down the long road of infertility, which for them meant three REs in three different states, about a half dozen IUIs, three retrieval cycles, and five transfers. Join us to hear how Stephanie learned how to advocate herself and ultimately became pregnant with her daughter.

What you’ll hear in this episode:

  • Stephanie is 33, has been married for 7 years, and is a fractional CFO for small businesses, entrepreneurs, and non-profits
  • For fun, she enjoys travel and hiking
  • Before infertility, she was ambitious and a “type-A” planner
  • After meeting her husband at a college party, they’ve been inseparable ever since
  • As a couple, “adventure” is the operative word. “Of course, we love each other, but we really ‘like’ each other, too.”
  • Motherhood was always “a given” for Stephanie
  • How Stephanie always thought about how their homes and jobs would be affected by kids
  • In 2011: started trying, then saw a RE a year later
  • Never an official diagnosis
  • From 2012-2016: 3 states, 3 REs but still no answers
  • Borderline test results on several issues: MTHFR genetic mutation, anti-thyroid antibodies, blood-clotting issue, and hypothyroidism
  • How Stephanie lost all hope after each failed IVF transfer, feeling “shattered each time”
  • How Stephanie’s husband’s strength and confidence helped her regain hope
  • A fond memory? The beginning of the IUI process because “we thought pregnancy was just around the corner.”
  • IUIs (6-8 of them), IVFs (3) and finally, two embryos to transfer
  • When she found out she was pregnant
  • Balancing work and being upfront with her boss
  • Great insurance coverage, but still some expenses
  • The difficulties of paperwork and testing with switching fertility clinics
  • Tips for advocating for yourself
  • How infertility has changed Stephanie? “I have changed my mindset around so much in life. I focus and meditate on what I really want to happen, and I’m not as much of a planner as I used to be.”
  • Stephanie’s advice to herself back then: “Throw ‘Plan B’ out the window. ‘Plan A’ is to have a baby. Focus on THAT.”

Words of Hope:

The road may be long and winding with many uphills, but there is always a way. Click To Tweet


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