Today’s success story is about a woman named Elizabeth. She’s a 37-year-old college professor who loves to travel, hike, cook, and swing dance. Growing up, she always admired her mom and wanted to become a parent like her but wondered for a long time if she’d ever meet the right person to make that dream a reality. Because of her career, she and her husband created a timeline for conceiving their first child that had a strict deadline. So, when they weren’t successful after 5 months, she headed to her OB. There, she was incorrectly diagnosed with PCOS and underwent two unsuccessful timed intercourse cycles. Join us to hear how she soon ended up at a fertility clinic where she found success via IVF thanks to new insurance coverage.
What you’ll hear in this episode:
- Before infertility, Elizabeth was easygoing and fun, but also serious, studious, and a worry-er
- How she met her husband at a party and their first date was to a movie and was set up by a friend: “We clicked right away”
- After an attempt at a long-distance relationship, they went through a lengthy break-up and then gave it another try four years later
- “We were made for each other”: as a couple, they are competitive and share common interests like podcasts, cooking, and travel
- How Elizabeth always wanted to be a mom, but worried about finding the right person with whom to have children
- Their self-imposed deadlines to get pregnant, based on when Elizabeth started a new job
- Testing at the Ob’s office after only five months of trying
- Receiving an inaccurate PCOS diagnosis
- The first RE appointment, a positive experience, and a reversal of the PCOS diagnosis
- Finding out what she expected, but dreaded—the unexplained infertility diagnosis
- Two rounds of IUI and a positive pregnancy test, but an early miscarriage
- Choosing to look at the positives from the miscarriage and “all the things my body COULD do right”
- Taking a break before the IVF cycle, and then 56 eggs retrieved!
- Finding success after transferring one embryo and freezing 11 for later
- Why they chose to save the best quality embryos for later
- Not really losing hope, but riding the rollercoaster of emotions through infertility
- Finding support and inspiration through the BI podcast and learning new things about the female body
- The positive pregnancy test and seeing and hearing the heartbeat for the first time
- Balancing work and treatments with the benefit of flexible schedules
- How insurance covered IVF, but they will have to explore options for future transfers
- Her relationship with her husband and how it strengthened as they kept open lines of communication and made every decision together: “Family building is a team activity”
- Why they chose NOT to tell many others about their journey, because they didn’t want to deal with awkward questions
- How Elizabeth felt empowered enough to advocate for herself, mostly because of the BI community
- How infertility changed Elizabeth: “It’s made me more empathetic to people and what they’re going through.”
- Elizabeth’s advice to herself back then: “Keep going, keep learning, and be patient. Things don’t always go as planned, but that’s OK.”
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