Unexplained Infertility: Amy’s Story [SUCCESS]

November 5, 2018

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Today’s success story is about a woman named Amy. She is a 36-year-old university administrator who enjoys writing, cooking, family time, and traveling. After nearly a year of trying to conceive, it was time for her annual exam, and her nurse midwife ran some initial blood work. The very next month, she found out she was pregnant. Unfortunately, the pregnancy ended in a missed miscarriage at about 7 weeks. Several months later, she began seeing a reproductive endocrinologist. They started with IUI, but after three failed cycles, it was time to move on to IVF. During her first cycle, she transferred two Day 3 embryos. Join us to hear how Amy became pregnant with twins, the pregnancy expanded to triplets, then two of the babies vanished — ultimately resulting in the birth of one child.

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What you’ll hear in this episode:

  • Before infertility, Amy was similar to now: type-A, a planner, and a rule follower
  • How she met her husband at a mixer event run by her brother
  • As a couple, they are “intuitive rule followers” with structured lives; they love growing together
  • With two younger brothers, Amy always knew she would be a mom, but she thought being a mom would be like being a big sister
  • How career decisions were impacted by the desire for motherhood
  • She finished grad school, started trying, and then saw her doctor after about a year
  • When she got pregnant, she was beyond excited, but the 7-week ultrasound showed a missed miscarriage
  • How the BI podcast helped during this time
  • On Clomid, and then 3 IUI cycles back to back to back, before moving on to IVF
  • How Amy’s husband’s job and insurance coverage changed
  • The struggle to get things scheduled for the IVF
  • The bad bedside manner of the RE
  • With 5 eggs, they got 2 Day 3 embryos and transferred both; she was pregnant!
  • On a weekly ultrasound, the technician saw 3, but one didn’t have a heartbeat
  • Soon, the heartbeat on the second baby stopped, but the other was still growing
  • At the first RE appt, Amy was impressed with the clean and new clinic, but the nurses seemed overcommitted and she wasn’t crazy about the RE
  • Why the RE did a Day 3 transfer
  • The lowest point for Amy was the miscarriage after the first year of trying
  • Two other low points were when they found it difficult to make a plan to move forward and the physical difficulty of pregnancy
  • A positive moment for Amy was the partnership of the nightly ritual of her husband giving her the shots
  • How Amy advocated at work fertility benefits and was able to change things for every woman
  • How her relationship with her husband has only grown closer through infertility, and they figured out how to stay connected through really challenging times
  • Amy’s advice to others: Share the burden
  • How infertility has changed Amy: “It’s made me more empathetic. I’m also appreciative of what gay couples have to go through on the path to parenthood.”
  • Amy’s advice to herself back then: “Let yourself feel all the feels and let the feelings be.”


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