In Episode 273, Heather provides a life update and answers some listener questions about loss, secondary infertility, coaching, and more.
What you’ll hear in this episode:
- Concussion update and other injuries
- How is your book going?
- Did you ever think that your body couldn’t handle more treatments and thought that it would be better to stop? I’ve been dealing with infertility for seven years. Lately, I’ve been questioning if it would be better to stop and explore other options such as adoption. But at the same time, I don’t feel ready to stop. Just wondering if you had this experience at some point and how you found the strength to keep going.
- I’d love to hear about your strategies around talking about your angel children. For example, when people endlessly ask me “how many kids do you have?” or “Oh, just the one, don’t you want more?” I struggle to (a) educate them and (b) honor my multiple lost children in addition to the living one I do have.
- What are your thoughts on Chinese herbs before transfer and even during pregnancy? Did you ever take any?
- Based on your experience as a coach, how do couples/women deal with feelings of jealousy and emotional stress when friends and family get pregnant and have children? What are the better options for coping? What is normal to feel? Can withdrawing also be considered a “healthy approach”?
- How do you nagivate secondary infertility after primary infertility? How do you find community?
- What are pregnancy and parenthood like after infertility? In my experience, both come with a side of PTSD and change who you are in ways you never expect.
- What are some of the ways you’ve dealt with the waiting for news, such as genetic testing and beta results? How do we get our minds off this stuff?
- Why there is so much disparity in opinions amongst REs?
- Why isn’t an AMH test done routinely with a Pap smear?
- How is Aurora doing? I remember hearing the episode where you talked about her troubles with eating and have often thought of how hard that must have been and wondered if she is doing better.