Today’s success story is about a woman named Kally. She’s a 35-year-old digital graphic designer who loves to bake. She met her husband through one of her best friends, and now they are coming up on their 10-year anniversary. Although she was able to get pregnant with her first child relatively easily, it just wasn’t happening when they started trying for their second. After developing a strong relationship and routine with an acupuncturist for about 9 months, they headed off to a reproductive endocrinologist who ultimately diagnosed her with endometriosis. Join us to hear how she fell into a pit of despair following two miscarriages, and they eventually became pregnant on their own after several IUI cycles.
What you’ll hear in this episode:
- At 37 years old, Kally is a digital graphic designer who loves baking, movies, books, and family time
- Before infertility, she was carefree, naïve, and easygoing
- How she met her husband through a best friend, then moved rapidly to dating and falling in love
- As a couple, they are experienced, knowledgeable, and know each other very well
- Why it “always just felt right to have kids”
- Secondary infertility after the birth of their first son, now age 7
- After trying for a year, they saw a midwife, who referred Kally to an acupuncturist
- After seeing the acupuncturist, she was referred to a fertility specialist
- The worry and range of emotions at the first appointment
- The new confident doctor
- Two laparoscopies to “clean things out”
- When Kally lost hope: many times, but especially in 2014, “when everyone around me was getting pregnant”
- How acupuncture helped create a safe space for feelings
- Fond memories of times of healing and considering the possibility of only one child
- 3 rounds of IUI, then Clomid, pregnancy, miscarriage, pregnant again, miscarriage again, Clomid again, more IUIs, and success with her son, born in Oct. 2016
- Why Kally believes she had success: the laparoscopies and the journey with the acupuncturist
- The paranoia during the pregnancy—worrying about EVERYTHING!
- Refocusing and finding peace with the possibility of one child
- Telling others about pregnancy and then going through miscarriage
- Juggling work and treatments
- When communicating with a boss and coworkers, know that it’s hard for others to understand if they haven’t experienced infertility
- Insurance issues and struggling to pay for medications
- How the relationship with her husband has grown much closer
- Kally’s relationship with her mother and how it helped ease the burden
- Learning to be a self-advocate and speaking up
- How infertility has changed Kally: “I’m more experienced, weathered, and I understand that other people may be suffering when we can’t even see it.”
- Kally’s advice to herself back then: “Let yourself be and accept yourself. Don’t think about the ‘what if’ or ‘why not’.”
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