Today’s success story is about a woman named Alison. She’s a 45-year-old doula who enjoys Crossfit and yoga. Being a mom wasn’t something that even entered her mind until she met her husband. At the very end of her first marriage, she found herself unexpectedly pregnant. Sadly, that pregnancy ended in a miscarriage at 14 weeks, so when she and her current husband were ready to start trying, she underwent some testing with her regular OB. After a couple more miscarriages, she transferred to a reproductive endocrinologist to hopefully provide some answers. Join us to hear how she underwent multiple IUIs and IVF cycles before finally overcoming her recurrent miscarriages.
What you’ll hear in this episode:
- Alison likes to hang out at the playground with her kids, spend time with her husband, and be a stay-at-home mom
- Before infertility, she was fun-loving, social, and spontaneous
- She met her husband because he was a frequent guest at the restaurant she managed
- As a couple, they have a similar sense of humor, enjoy the same activities, and balance each other out
- Being a mom wasn’t something she thought about as she grew up; when she married her second husband, she thought, “THIS is the man I want to have kids with.”
- They started trying, got pregnant, and miscarried at 8 weeks
- After an HSG test, there was another quick pregnancy and miscarriage
- The first RE appointment came after a move to NYC
- The “unexplained infertility” diagnosis and no real answers
- Three unsuccessful IUI’s, a change in RE’s to keep insurance coverage, and then another pregnancy and miscarriage
- The next recommendation was IVF with PGS testing, so they did 3 subsequent cycles and were pregnant with twins
- How Alison lost hope when out-of-pocket costs mounted
- A fond memory was their shared sense of humor about giving sperm samples in the doctor’s office
- Balancing work and treatment, saving money, and using insurance coverage
- How they kept their relationship strong by working hard to be open and honest with each other
- Not telling anyone else at first, then telling everyone and feeling frustrated at having to offer constant updates
- Learning to be a self-advocate when it came to the birth plan that didn’t quite match up with the doctor’s
- A tip for advocacy: write down questions and points to cover before each appointment
- How the hardest things in Alison’s life, infertility and childbirth, have now become her career
- How infertility changed Alison: “I’m more in touch with my emotions and the emotions of others. I have more sympathy and empathy and realize now that ALL feelings are valid feelings.”
- Alison’s advice to herself back then: “Take things one step at a time. I wish I had gone ahead and done the things I wanted to instead of taking a break from life.”
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MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:
- Alison’s website
- Information about unexplained infertility
- Information about PCOS
- Information about high natural killer cells
- Information about recurrent miscarriages
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