Today’s bonus episode guest is Dr. Haley Kranstuber Horstman, a professor of communication at the University of Missouri.
Dr. Kranstuber Horstman and Heather discuss miscarriage from a man’s perspective:
- I’d like to start by hearing a little bit more about you. Tell us about your professional background and take us through your career.
- Why did you decide to focus on communication in the context of family adversity, especially the niche area of miscarriage?
- Since you didn’t go through infertility yourself, I’m a little curious about how you stumbled upon our community. Can you explain?
- Why did you want to study miscarriage from a man’s perspective?
- What were the results of your study?
- What was the most surprising or interesting finding to you and your team?
- You and your team found five metaphors that reflect a man’s understanding of the physical, emotional and relational implications of his partner’s miscarriage. Let’s go through each one:
- Lost gift
- Death of a loved one
- Chaotic movement
- Additionally, you found four additional metaphors to describe their role in the experience. Again, let’s go through each one:
- Secondary character
- What do you hope the study’s findings will do for relationships that have involved a miscarriage?
- How might these findings differ if your sample was more diverse?
- What’s next? Where are you looking to take this research?
COMMUNICATION ADVICE FOR COUPLES
- How can couples “co-cope” with the experience of a miscarriage?
- What tips, tricks, do’s and don’ts do you have for men about communicating with their partner after a miscarriage?
- What tips, tricks, do’s and don’ts do you have for men about communicating with their family after a miscarriage?
- What tips, tricks, do’s and don’ts do you have for men about communicating with their friends after a miscarriage?
- What tips, tricks, do’s and don’ts do you have for men about communicating with their broader community, such as their colleagues, after a miscarriage?
- Is there anything else you’d like to add?
- What words of hope would you offer to a man whose partner has miscarried?