Today’s success story is about a woman named Adelle. She’s a 35-year-old high school teacher who knew from a young age she wanted to have kids and, in fact, planned her entire adult life around them. Her infertility journey spans the better part of a decade and multiple partners. Her ex-husband was a paraplegic and thus in a wheelchair when they met when she was just 20 years old. So, when they were ready to start a family in her mid-twenties, she thought it would be a simple matter of getting his healthy sperm into her. However, with infertility, it’s rarely so simple. Join us to hear how she became pregnant with twins via IUI following two failed IVF cycles with her ex and five IUI cycles and a miscarriage with her current husband.
What you’ll hear in this episode:
- Adelle is a 35-year-old high school teacher who loves to exercise, craft, cook, bake, and spend time with her husband and kids
- Before infertility, she was young, fit, and newly married
- How she met her current husband in 2011 on a dating website
- As a couple, they try to have fun, but lead very busy and scheduled lives with their twins
- Why Adelle always wanted to be a mom and planned her life around motherhood
- With her ex, she assumed beating infertility would be an easy process
- How she was devastated after hearing the infertility diagnosis at age 23, with the immediate recommendation of IVF with ICSI
- What they went through: poor sperm samples, hormone injections, egg retrievals and transfers, and many false positives
- A 2-year break, then started again with injections and low follicle and egg counts
- Why infertility was a big reason for the split from her first husband
- A year or so of healing, meeting a new man, and thinking conception would “be easy this time”
- Ten months of trying, and then seeing a doctor for tests
- Great sperm count, but low morphology and motility: “Here we go again.”
- When Adelle lost hope, especially when she miscarried after 8 years of trying to get pregnant
- Why she remembers a former student’s words of encouragement fondly
- A positive and upbeat doctor who started them with timed IUI and Clomid
- A pregnancy, but bleeding that led to a miscarriage
- A different approach: less exercise, fertility acupuncture, and holistic nutritional changes
- Two more rounds of IUI, and then the pregnancy with twins!
- Balancing work and treatment, but making treatment a priority
- Healthcare in Canada: what’s covered and what’s not
- How infertility impacted her 2nd marriage, since the 1st one failed
- Why distance was needed for some friendships
- Knowing when you need to speak up and advocate for yourself
- Post-partum depression after the birth of the twins
- How infertility has changed Adelle: “I don’t think it’s changed me for the better. I feel like my journey has been unusually long. I feel really bitter that this was my journey, but I’m also grateful.”
- Adelle’s advice to herself back then: “Be patient. These things take time. It doesn’t mean that it’s not gonna happen.”
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