Today’s bonus episode guest is Dr. Maria Rothenburger, a psychotherapist who specializes in infertility. If you haven’t already listened to it, she shared her personal infertility story in Episode 18.
Dr. Rothenburger and Heather discuss how to let go of expectations while battling infertility:
- Our bodies are scientifically wired to expectations, both met and unmet. Can you explain this?
- Given what we know about our body’s reaction expectations, why do we set them, both consciously and subconsciously?
- Growing up, we’re taught that unprotected sex always leads to a baby. So, it’s natural to expect a baby once we stop preventing pregnancy. This is the first expectation of many along our infertility journeys that doesn’t go as we’d envisioned or planned. As we consciously or subconsciously set expectations that don’t pan out, how do our reactions change over time?
- Do you believe it’s important to let go of some or all expectations with regard to you infertility journey? Why or why not? If so, which ones and why?
- Isn’t letting go of expectations scary, though?
- How can listeners decide which expectations they should hold on to and which ones they should let go?
- Now that listeners have decided to let go of an expectation, what steps can they take to do this?
- Once an expectation is gone, should listeners be replacing it with something else? If so, what?
- Are some expectations harder to let go of than others? Why or why not? If so, which ones and why?
- What should listeners do when they hit roadblocks with regard to letting go of expectations?
- Is there anything else you’d like to add?
- What words of hope would you offer to listeners who are currently struggling with conscious and subconscious expectations about their infertility journeys?
BONUS: Check out BONUS 17 for a discount code for some of Dr. Rothenburger’s services.