Endometriosis & Male Factor: Jessica’s Story [SUCCESS]

December 24, 2018

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Today’s success story is about a woman named Jessica. She is a 29-year-old mechanical engineer who enjoys reading, art, and exercising. Even before she and her husband began trying to conceive, she was temping and charting. So, after a year without success and knowing she had endometriosis, she asked her regular OB/GYN what to do. Her doctor said endo could be a factor, so she headed to a reproductive endocrinologist. Their new doctor diagnosed her husband with low morphology. Six months later, after completing a bodybuilding competition, she had a laparoscopy to remove her endo and a fibroid. She went on to have three consecutive failed IUI cycles, and it was time to try IVF. Unfortunately, a fresh transfer of a single embryo also failed, so they took a six-month break. Join us to hear how Jessica returned to fertility treatments and transferred two embryos, resulting in her twins.

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What you’ll hear in this episode:

  • Before infertility, Jessica was hopeful, determined, and positive
  • She met her husband in a class in college, when he was the teaching assistant
  • As a couple, they are a great team, having learned to work together through the tough times
  • How she always wanted to be a mom
  • How the desire to be a mom impacted her relationship with her husband, as they worked to be stronger together; she also asked other women about career issues in becoming a mom
  • In May of 2014, they began trying to conceive, but Jessica had already been temping and tracking her cycles for birth control; she was full of hope and didn’t suspect any trouble
  • She saw her Ob-gyn, who wasn’t concerned about the endo
  • In 2015, she saw an RE for the first time, tests were done, low morphology was diagnosed, and IUI was recommended
  • Jessica took a break and worked on bodybuilding and getting healthy for a few months before doing the first IUI
  • After the break, the doctor recommended IVF because of her husband’s low morphology; they were devastated because of the expense and the fact that IUI didn’t give them much hope
  • In November of 2015, Jessica asked to have a laparoscopy to remove the endometriosis, and it was found to be Stage 2
  • Why she requested that they still begin with IUI first, even though IVF was recommended
  • Thinking it would be “easy,” she did three IUI rounds, with no success
  • Her reactions to Clomid: hot flashes and depression
  • Why they moved to IVF to minimize the chances of multiples, since she is a quadruplet and her husband is a twin!
  • In June of 2016, their first retrieval took place, resulting in 9 embryos and the fresh transfer of one–which failed
  • They took a break and then did a frozen transfer of two embryos
  • She was pregnant with twins, who are now almost a year old
  • How she originally self-diagnosed herself with endometriosis by researching it, but her doctor wasn’t sure
  • How Jessica controlled her diet to help hormones, and the official endometriosis diagnosis came when the RE did the laparoscopy
  • How she selected her RE, who was close to her home and recommended by her Ob-gyn
  • The positive first impression of the RE, but then how that changed when he didn’t give all the facts or remember what he said from appointment to appointment
  • How it felt to have endometriosis and her husband’s low morphology diagnosis
  • The lowest point, when the fresh transfer failed and they were utterly devastated
  • A positive moment of growing closer to her husband, because he remained so supportive
  • How they balanced work and treatments, with the clinic being close by and scheduling appointments either early in the day or at lunch
  • How they found out their insurance would cover a portion of their treatment
  • How Jessica manifested her creative side by doing embryo watercolor paintings
  • How she became more gracious toward family members, knowing they may not say the right thing, but their heart is in the right place
  • How infertility changed Jessica: “It made me more hopeful and also more cynical, but also more grateful.”
  • Jessica’s advice to herself back then: “Chill out. Don’t freak out when everything doesn’t go your way. Keep swimming.”


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