Endometriosis, DOR & Azoospermia: Dani’s Story [SUCCESS]

March 16, 2020

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Today’s success story is about a woman named Dani. She is a 32-year-old sales professional who enjoys reading, traveling, and spending time in the water. Both Dani and her husband were told early in life that they couldn’t have children. She had endometriosis, and he had azoospermia because of childhood cancer treatments. Before they got married, she insisted they both have a thorough fertility workup because struggling to build their family was going to be something they’d need to handle tackling as a couple. Shortly after their wedding, they returned to the fertility clinic and chose a sperm donor. Unfortunately, the clinic wouldn’t work with that particular sperm bank. It’s now several years after their initial workup, and her AMH is low enough that her doctor recommends donor eggs. However, a consultation with our very own Dr. Allison Rodgers empowers her to push for using her own eggs. Join us to hear how Dani went on to produce 11 blasts from a single retrieval and get pregnant with her daughter after their third frozen transfer.

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What you’ll hear in this episode:

  • Before infertility, Dani was much more relaxed and spontaneous
  • How she met her husband at work, and their relationship began with an argument
  • As a couple, they are close and have the same goals and drive in life
  • How Dani always wanted to be a mom but wasn’t sure she could be a biological mom
  • How job details were definitely affected by Dani’s desire to be a mom
  • With painful periods as a teen, Dani saw an Ob who told her she had endometriosis and probably would never have kids
  • How Dani researched to learn more about IVF and possible adoption
  • Before Dani married her husband, he told her that he couldn’t have kids because of childhood cancer treatments
  • Why Dani insisted on fertility testing for both of them so they could be on the same page and have a plan for moving forward
  • The testing revealed azoospermia for him and endometriosis and possible PCOS for her
  • Why they decided to pursue donor conception
  • They went back to the same RE and clinic when they were ready to start trying, but they had an unpleasant experience
  • How they chose a sperm bank, but the RE told them it wasn’t on the approved list for their clinic
  • Why they stayed with the clinic even though they weren’t happy there
  • Another doctor at the clinic told Dani that her AMH was so low that it wasn’t recommended that they try IVF with Dani’s eggs, but they would need to use donor eggs in addition to donor sperm
  • Why Dani chose to do a phone consult with Dr. Rodgers, who encouraged Dani to pursue IVF with her own eggs and do a no-birth-control protocol
  • When Dani took this advice back to her RE, they tried a cycle using Dani’s eggs; the result was 14 eggs and 11 blasts
  • After a hysteroscopy to remove polyps, they did a double embryo transfer; they were very hopeful but saw no success
  • They repeated the same process: hysteroscopy, double embryo transfer—-and still, no success
  • With seven embryos left, Dani was worried and considered another IVF round, but they did a third frozen transfer with two embryos—-and she got pregnant!
  • Dani’s first impression of the fertility clinic, how the doctor seemed competent and decisive, and how she didn’t know what to ask
  • Dani’s initial thoughts on donor conception and how she thought the process would be so easy
  • How Dani researched donor conception and decided to focus on what’s best for her child
  • Dani’s tips on choosing a sperm bank: “Do your research. Talk to other parents who have used that sperm bank.”
  • The significant impact of Dr. Rodgers on Dani’s infertility journey
  • How the clinic narrowed down its list of sperm banks but still allowed Dani to use the one previously chosen
  • How the new no-birth-control protocol recommended by Dr. Rodgers led to Dani’s success
  • Why Dani chose to do double-embryo transfers to minimize the cost and maximize their chances because their insurance coverage maxed out at $15K
  • How the BI podcast helped give Dani incredible resources with which to educate herself
  • What it was like for Dani to face the possibility of using donor eggs along with donor sperm
  • The lowest point for Dani, when they were told there was no hope in using her eggs at all after her second failed transfer
  • A positive moment, when Dani witnessed the birth of her best friend’s baby and then left the hospital to attend her IVF class
  • How Dani’s work was flexible with her schedule, and her coworkers were supportive because she chose to be open with them about her journey
  • How savings and insurance helped Dani and her husband afford treatments
  • How Dani “learned never to listen to the first or second NO,” and learned to be skeptical of what the doctor’s office says about her insurance coverage
  • How infertility made Dani and her husband a stronger team with deeper trust
  • Regarding relationships with friends and family, some were strengthened, and some people were driven away
  • How infertility changed Dani: “Infertility made me a braver person. I didn’t know how to advocate for myself before. I learned that informing myself was the best thing I could do.”
  • Dani’s advice to her past self: “Take the time to do it right.”

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