Today’s success story is about a woman named Jade. She’s a 33-year-old registered nurse who, even before infertility, was no stranger to challenges, such as the eating disorder in college that almost took her life. Although she loved babies as a little girl, once she entered high school, she found herself questioning whether or not she wanted kids. However, after her dad became ill, she realized how short life was and once again desired a larger family. Join us to hear how both she and her husband received infertility diagnoses that had her RE recommending they head straight to IVF with ICSI — and all the loss and grief they’ve experienced since then.
What you’ll hear in this episode:
- Jade works part-time now in an acute care/long term care facility, and enjoys long walks, music, podcasts, and spending time with family around the holidays
- Before infertility, she was more carefree, social, and career-loving
- Now married for 10 years, she met her husband in high school, and says they are “polar opposites with some common ground”
- She loved babies as a girl, but then didn’t want kids for a long time—until later in her 20’s
- The career and house choices made to accommodate a life full of children
- They tried for over a year, saw a doctor, then an Ob, and then an RE
- Jade self-diagnosed her hypothalamic amenorrhea and her husband received a severe male factor diagnosis with “the only chance being IVF with ICSI”
- The first RE appointment after an 8-month wait, a 10-hour round trip, a 15-minute appointment with unfriendly and unwelcoming staff
- Jade tried acupuncture, Chinese herbs, Provera, timed intercourse, and then IVF
- A big surprise after transferring one embryo that formed into identical twins!
- Successive tries with the remaining 6 embryos: miscarriage, chemical pregnancies, and then another fresh cycle
- Frustration with the clinic, but the fresh transfer resulted in a healthy, full-term baby
- Jade lost a lot of hope in the low moments, like a recent miscarriage at 9 weeks
- On the positive side, she met a lot of great, lifelong friends in the online community
- The pregnancy test that meant she would finally be a mother
- Comparing primary and secondary infertility
- The emotional strength to go through transfers the 2nd and 3rd time around
- Balancing work and fertility treatment
- Affording treatment with no insurance coverage
- Her relationship with her husband has been made stronger after all they have been through
- Why you sometimes have to distance yourself from those who can’t support you
- Learning to be a self-advocate after dealing with their “one size fits all” protocols
- Tips for listeners: “Let them know what you need. You’re paying good money, so let them serve you.”
- How infertility has changed Jade: “I’m the mother I am because of infertility. I’m more patient and tolerant. It’s also kind of hardened me. I have less tolerance for problems that really aren’t problems.”
- Jade’s advice to herself back then: “Stay the course. Be an advocate for yourself. It will be worth it.”
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