Today’s success story is about a woman named Emily. She is a 35-year-old Ph.D. student who enjoys spending time with her children and has recently rediscovered her love of exercising. Although she knew her hyperthyroidism and a blood clotting disorder may make conception difficult, and she was diagnosed with high FSH prior to her first pregnancy, she and her husband were able to conceive on their own. However, adding to their family proved to be much more challenging. They began trying six months after their son’s birth because of her diminished ovarian reserve. Join us to hear how both she and her husband received additional diagnoses after multiple IUI and IVF cycles and finally found success by connecting with the right doctor for their particular situation.
What you’ll hear in this episode:
- Keeping up with three kids doesn’t leave much free time for Emily!
- Before infertility, Emily was fun-loving and hardworking
- Their first and second IUI cycles were simply disastrous, with a good number of eggs but no quality embryos to show for it
- Emily’s unconventional approach: she got opinions from different RE’s both locally and by phone across the country
- To learn more about her odd slow reactions to low-level stims and her low-quality embryos, she created a 4-5 pg. Word document about her history and sent it to RE’s with specific questions
- Not surprisingly, the RE’s had a big difference of opinions on a lot of things
- How she found a doctor in NY who had some answers for her situation
- The sperm DNA fragmentation test, PICSI, and a Day 3 transfer of four embryos that worked!
- Why she knew that THIS was the right doctor for her
- Why she tried acupuncture, but couldn’t exercise or relax with wine for fear of affecting her egg quality
- An opportunity to move to Europe for her husband’s work, and why they were hesitant at first, but then decided to “go for it”
- Emily’s tips for self-advocacy: “Don’t be intimidated by doctors, because there is still much that they don’t know. Don’t be afraid to question them. Try to find a doctor with whom you can work as a team.”
- How infertility changed Emily: “It made me more empathetic with people because we never know what people are going through. It reaffirmed my belief that you have to apply a lot of effort to situations you can’t control. Also, you have to learn that there is SO MUCH that you can’t control.”
- Emily’s advice to herself back then: “Try not to approach each month as the ‘be-all, end-all.’ That sets you up for extreme and constant stress. Don’t set artificial deadlines because that adds to the stress. Don’t be judgmental toward yourself.”