Dual Factor Infertility: Charlotte’s Story [SUCCESS]

October 30, 2017

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Today’s success story is about a woman named Charlotte. She’s a 34-year-old medical librarian, and her husband works in higher education, as well. As early as third grade, she wanted to be a mother when she grew up. After only three months of dating, her husband proposed and they were married a year later. He’s always had severe chronic illnesses, so even before infertility, they had been through a lot together and she questioned whether her dream of becoming a mother would be possible. Let’s listen to how they opted to use donor sperm after considering adoption and found success with IVF.

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What you’ll hear in this episode:

  • Charlotte is a 34-year-old librarian at a medical school who’s usually a happy person
  • Her husband has chronic illnesses, like severe asthma, diabetes, hypertension, and more
  • Before infertility, she wasn’t a different person, since her life has consisted of many illnesses and frequent hospitalizations
  • She and her husband met while they worked at a small, Catholic, private college and became friends before dating
  • As a couple, they are happy, even with all that they have gone through
  • In third grade, Charlotte remembers wanting to be “a ballerina and a mother”
  • Why they talked about adoption early on in their relationship, in light of her husband’s condition
  • How they wanted kids, but planned ahead in case there would never be any
  • A PCOS diagnosis, weight loss, the first RE appointment, and the treatment plan
  • Her husband’s visit to the reproductive urologist: no sperm and dangerously low testosterone
  • The recommendation of donor sperm
  • A fond memory? Interaction with the BI podcast community
  • Picking a sperm donor during a New Year’s Eve sale!
  • IUI at first, with three samples that didn’t work
  • The successful IVF and their daughter
  • “I knew I was a mom when I spoke my daughter’s name at her birth”
  • Balancing work and treatment, with the help of very supportive co-workers
  • Insurance issues in Illinois and the out-of-pocket costs
  • How her husband was “on the other side” since he was used to being the “one who was sick”
  • Why using donor sperm didn’t sit well with several family members
  • The “sixth sense” needed in order to advocate for yourself
  • Their plans to tell their daughter about their infertility experience and how she came to their family
  • How infertility has changed Charlotte: “It has given me a different perspective. I’ve learned what a miracle childbirth is and that it shouldn’t be taken for granted.”
  • Charlotte’s advice to herself back then: “There is some hope. Just keep going. It’s going to be fine.”

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