Today’s success story is about a woman named Charlotte. She’s a 34-year-old medical librarian, and her husband works in higher education, as well. As early as third grade, she wanted to be a mother when she grew up. After only three months of dating, her husband proposed and they were married a year later. He’s always had severe chronic illnesses, so even before infertility, they had been through a lot together and she questioned whether her dream of becoming a mother would be possible. Let’s listen to how they opted to use donor sperm after considering adoption and found success with IVF.
What you’ll hear in this episode:
- Charlotte is a 34-year-old librarian at a medical school who’s usually a happy person
- Her husband has chronic illnesses, like severe asthma, diabetes, hypertension, and more
- Before infertility, she wasn’t a different person, since her life has consisted of many illnesses and frequent hospitalizations
- She and her husband met while they worked at a small, Catholic, private college and became friends before dating
- As a couple, they are happy, even with all that they have gone through
- In third grade, Charlotte remembers wanting to be “a ballerina and a mother”
- Why they talked about adoption early on in their relationship, in light of her husband’s condition
- How they wanted kids, but planned ahead in case there would never be any
- A PCOS diagnosis, weight loss, the first RE appointment, and the treatment plan
- Her husband’s visit to the reproductive urologist: no sperm and dangerously low testosterone
- The recommendation of donor sperm
- A fond memory? Interaction with the BI podcast community
- Picking a sperm donor during a New Year’s Eve sale!
- IUI at first, with three samples that didn’t work
- The successful IVF and their daughter
- “I knew I was a mom when I spoke my daughter’s name at her birth”
- Balancing work and treatment, with the help of very supportive co-workers
- Insurance issues in Illinois and the out-of-pocket costs
- How her husband was “on the other side” since he was used to being the “one who was sick”
- Why using donor sperm didn’t sit well with several family members
- The “sixth sense” needed in order to advocate for yourself
- Their plans to tell their daughter about their infertility experience and how she came to their family
- How infertility has changed Charlotte: “It has given me a different perspective. I’ve learned what a miracle childbirth is and that it shouldn’t be taken for granted.”
- Charlotte’s advice to herself back then: “There is some hope. Just keep going. It’s going to be fine.”
Words of Hope:Your journey may take twists and turns, but that’s OK. Let yourself be sad but don’t live there. Click To Tweet
MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:
Enjoy This Episode?
* Make a one-time or ongoing donation to the show.
* Tell your fertility clinic and/or in-person support group about the show.
* Leave a review on iTunes to bring awareness of the show to others.
For other ways to support the show, click here.
THANKS FOR LISTENING!
Thank you so much for listening this week. Have some feedback you’d like to share? Leave a note in the comment section below!