Today’s success story is about a woman named Maya. She is a 37-year-old psychotherapist who now works primarily with infertility patients. She and her husband started trying to conceive in 2010 when she turned 30. Eventually, she ended up seeing a reproductive endocrinologist because there was a suspicion that something was wrong with her tubes. However, after a lot of testing, she was ultimately diagnosed with diminished ovarian reserve. Join us to hear how her journey took her from IVF to IUI, then back to IVF again with donor eggs from her sister, before she finally found success using a donor embryo — all while the cameras were rolling for a film called One More Shot.
What you’ll hear in this episode:
- Maya originally worked with kids and families and then moved on to infertility patients as she “learned a new language”
- Maya has a private practice in Los Angeles and loves to be outdoors, especially at the beach
- Before infertility, she traveled, went to rock shows and baseball games, and was upbeat and happy
- How she and her husband met in college in 2000 and as a couple are very busy
- Maya was always crazy about dolls and babies as a kid; there was no question that she wanted to be a mom
- Her schooling and career path were impacted by her love for kids and desire for motherhood
- How they started trying when Maya was 30 and had basic testing done after about a year because “something wasn’t right”
- At the first RE appointment, they felt hopeful but never dreamed what measures it would take—-and it’s all documented in the movie!
- The diagnoses? First, only one functioning tube, then a laparoscopy showed both tubes closed, then DOR
- They went straight to IVF when the doctor said her eggs had to be harvested right away
- Acupuncture for 4-6 months and herbs
- Nine follicles, five eggs retrieved, three good eggs, but none developed correctly
- No transfer happened, and they were traumatized and devastated
- After a break, they tried inseminations with meds and then changed their goals
- “We reframed our ideas of family,” by considering egg donors and adoption
- Maya’s younger sister offered a huge gift in donating her eggs
- After 16 eggs and 4 transferred, no success, and they hit rock bottom
- They looked at all options and found a good match with embryo adoption in Seattle
- When Maya lost most hope, after the egg donation from her sister didn’t work and they had no more answers
- A fond moment when Maya really felt connected to her husband and they felt like a team
- After the embryo adoption, they watched the numbers, knowing they were pregnant, but hesitant and terrified
- A subdural hematoma and then a severe bleeding incident when she thought, “This is it”
- Bed rest and a difficult birth, but joy at her daughter’s first cry
- Making the decision to use a donated embryo and finding “the specific one”
- How documenting the journey for film seemed to normalize what they went through
- Financial struggles and help from family and a grant from Baby Quest
- How infertility has changed Maya: “I learned a new language. It’s changed my career and now I’m focused on helping people going through infertility. It’s changed my perspective on family.”
- Maya’s advice to herself back then: “I wish I would have been patient and a little more optimistic. I would remind myself that we ARE going to get out of this.”
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