Today’s success story is about a woman named Freda. She is 31 years old and works as a licensing manager for an accessories company. Before infertility, she was fairly easy-going and carefree. Although she had some anxiety, it was a lot less intense than it is now. She married her husband when she was 26, but he wasn’t ready to become a father at the time because he was still in school. Once they started trying to conceive, she became pregnant after only a few months. Unfortunately, that pregnancy ended in a miscarriage at about 10 weeks. Shortly thereafter, she knew something was wrong. The first reproductive endocrinologist she saw diagnosed her with diminished ovarian reserve and suggested she immediately pursue IVF with donor eggs. Join us to hear how she found the right doctor for her and eventually became pregnant with her son during their third round of IVF with her own eggs.
What you’ll hear in this episode:
- For fun, Freda likes shopping, spending time at the beach, and hanging out with friends and family
- How she met her husband first at a wedding and then later at a party
- As a couple, they balance each other out and share common goals
- How Freda has always wanted to be a mom and grew up wanting more siblings
- How the infertility struggle has affected her life plans
- Trying to conceive, a quick pregnancy, cramping, bleeding, and an early miscarriage
- How she saw an RE and received the diminished ovarian reserve diagnosis
- Research and advice from friends about finding the right RE
- Three consecutive rounds of IVF—finally, success!
- How she lost hope after the failure of the 2nd round of IVF
- How supportive friends helped her regain hope
- A fond memory of a weekend getaway with her husband to escape the chaos
- The moment at the doctor’s office when she saw her son on the ultrasound for the first time
- Why she remained cautiously optimistic and didn’t tell many people about the pregnancy until about 20 weeks
- How her husband coped by keeping his emotions inside and remaining rock solid for her
- How infertility has altered their plans for a big family
- Starting for a second child just 6 weeks after her son’s birth—waiting now to start round 2 of IVF
- Balancing work and treatments when it wasn’t easy
- Advice about telling your boss about your treatment: “Be open”
- When IVF is NOT covered by insurance—how they scraped together available funds to pay for it
- How her relationship with her husband has grown closer and stronger through this journey
- Freda’s strained relationship with some friends when they asked rude questions
- Freda’s tips about advocating when it doesn’t come naturally: “Be educated; learn all you can.”
- The indescribable emotions she felt at the moment of her son’s birth
- How infertility has changed Freda? “I’m more educated and more empathetic to everyone’s journey.”
- Freda’s advice to herself back then: “It’s not IF, but WHEN. Keep going forward because the prize at the end is worth it.”
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