BONUS 107: How to Cope After a Failed Cycle

BONUS 107: How to Cope After a Failed Cycle

Today’s Guest:

Today’s bonus episode guest is Dr. Maria Rothenburger, a psychotherapist who specializes in infertility. If you haven’t already listened to it, she shared her personal infertility story in Episode 18.

Dr. Rothenburger and Heather discuss how to cope after a failed cycle, whether that means timed intercourse, IUI, or IVF: 

  • What emotions can listeners expect to experience once they’ve learned their cycle — whether it’s timed intercourse, IUI, or IVF — failed?
  • To test or not to test. Testing at home can give a sense of control, but the end results are the same regardless. What are the pros and cons of testing before an official beta?
  • How else can you prepare for a failed cycle — without willing it to fail? (In other words, how do you balance remaining hopeful it will succeed but begin protecting your heart in case it doesn’t?)
  • Coping strategies:
    • Don’t suppress your emotions
    • Take time to grieve
    • Take time to heal physically
    • Avoid the blame game
    • Focus on the follow up appointment
    • Understand why the cycle may have failed
    • Focus on what went well
    • Find a new distraction
    • Consider all your options
    • Look after your relationship
    • Ask for help/lean on your support network
    • Therapy/counseling
  • What are some strategies to bounce back after a failed cycle?
  • Is there anything else you’d like to add?

BONUS: Check out BONUS 17 for a discount code for some of Dr. Rothenburger’s services.

Words of Hope:

Remind yourself that, no matter where you are in your journey, you’re one step closer to having that baby. Click To Tweet


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