Childfree Following Infertility: Tia’s Story [SUCCESS]

May 13, 2019

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Today’s success story of a woman named Tia. She is a 35-year-old HR manager who enjoys spending time with her husband and dog on their boat and renovating their home. After nearly two years of unsuccessfully trying to conceive, she saw her OB/GYN. An HSG revealed her tubes were clear, so they started a round of Clomid and timed intercourse. After three failed cycles, she switched OB/GYNs and ultimately decided to move to a reproductive endocrinologist to pursue IUI. After testing revealed both she and her husband were carriers of a genetic condition, their doctor informed them the only way forward was IVF with preimplantation genetic testing. It took them a year and a half to save enough money to return to the clinic. Three retrieval cycles resulted in two genetically normal embryos. She became pregnant following her second frozen transfer but unfortunately miscarried. Join us to hear how Tia went through one more retrieval, miscarried again, and ultimately decided to stop fertility treatments and remain childfree.

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What you’ll hear in this episode:

  • Before infertility, Tia was crazy and spent a lot of time trying to figure out the future
  • How she met her husband at a Halloween party when she was a devil and he was a construction worker—and their eyes met across a crowded room . . .
  • As a couple, they are adventurers and dreamers who mesh well together as a power couple
  • How the abrupt passing of her grandfather inspired her to want to become a mother
  • When they started trying, she knew things weren’t working as they should
  • When she went to the Ob-gyn, her concerns were dismissed, but she was put on progesterone supplements
  • A semen analysis and HSG gave normal results
  • Three cycles with Clomid–and no success
  • A new Ob-gyn suggested they see an RE, so they saw Dr. Jacobs at FCI
  • The doctor was confident that IUI would work, he recommended genetic testing, and they were both found to be carriers of the abnormality, MCAD
  • The IUI was canceled, and their only chance was to move forward with IVF with PGD and PGS testing to make sure the abnormality isn’t passed on to a child
  • They took a year off to save money and started IVF in April 2016; they got 7 eggs, and none survived
  • They started over with another cycle and got 8 eggs and one embryo
  • With a newer, experimental protocol, they did a 3rd retrieval and got 4 eggs, but only 2 normal embryos
  • The transfer failed, and Tia demanded an endo-scratch before the final transfer
  • She was pregnant, and an early scan showed the heartbeat, but bleeding and cramps led to a miscarriage on Dec. 26
  • How she dealt with depression, anger, and marriage counseling
  • They started the 4th retrieval, got 11 eggs and one more embryo, but it was a chemical pregnancy
  • Tia decided it was time to stop and 2018 became a year of renewal, healing, and growth
  • How Tia picked her own insurance coverage
  • How she found the courage to talk openly about her journey and found a community of others who were suffering
  • Tia’s life today after ending the journey and how she found time to advocate for others and found her purpose, her dream job, and her dream life
  • Tia’s tips for advocacy: “The hardest part is the comparison factor. Reach out and find your tribe. Be vocal about your needs.”
  • How infertility changed Tia: “I am a powerhouse and am in my element. I can manage emotions and understand grief and communication better. I’m more present in my life.”
  • Tia’s advice to her past self: “Trust your gut.”

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