Today’s success story is about a woman named Alice. She’s the 41-year-old founder of MedAnswers, a service that connects infertility patients to experts, and Fertile Action, a nonprofit for fertile women touched by cancer. In 2008 at 31 years old, she was diagnosed with breast cancer. Because she’d always known she wanted to be a mom, she quickly decided to pursue a fertility preservation cycle. Her partner at the time didn’t want to go through the fertility treatment process with her, so she decided to find a sperm donor and become a single mother. Join us to hear how she beat cancer, suffered several miscarriages, and finally beat infertility with a frozen embryo transfer.
What you’ll hear in this episode:
- Why her most fun is found in playing and doing the “little boy” things with her four-year-old son
- Before infertility, Alice was intense, driven, and had no balance or focus around anything except work
- How she never questioned whether or not she wanted to be a mom
- How she made a major decision about her marriage based on desire for motherhood
- Finding a lump and facing a breast cancer diagnosis, with a mindset toward fertility preservation
- The initial appointment with the RE and immediate plans to preserve fertility
- Focusing on fertility and LIFE after breast cancer
- Looking at sperm donors in a catalog and how she made the choice
- What a fertility preservation cycle involves
- Just days after the cancer diagnosis, 14 embryos and 11 unfertilized eggs
- Three years of breast cancer treatment
- Trying to get pregnant and several miscarriages
- Deciding to leave a difficult relationship and pursue single motherhood
- Pregnancy, her son, and the ultimate fulfillment of motherhood
- How each crisis requires layers of acceptance
- Thinking now about fertilizing more eggs and doing another transfer
- How Alice feels called to serve others in onco-fertility and infertility and is teaching her son to serve others in love
- Advocating and being “the CEO of your infertility team
- Alice’s tips and advice about advocating for yourself and your treatment
- How infertility has changed Alice: “I’m much more compassionate. I have a reverence for the female body and know how devastating it is when some part is out of whack and not functioning. I’m a better woman, a better mother, and a better human because of infertility.”
- Alice’s advice to herself back then: “I wouldn’t have gotten into that relationship and would have pursued single motherhood sooner. I wouldn’t have cared so much about what other people thought.”
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MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:
- Information about fertility preservation
- Information about recurrent miscarriages
- Fertile Action
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