Today’s success story is about a woman named Tammy. As the sixth child in a family of seven children, she always knew she wanted to have kids. Tammy unfortunately had to see five REs before getting an official diagnosis — one that was caused by an appendectomy when she was 8 years old. Like so many others, she was devastated when her first IVF transfer didn’t work and struggled to regain a positive attitude. Join us to hear how Tammy eventually received three diagnoses, suffered two losses, had a hysterectomy, but still ended up with two beautiful children and donated her remaining embryos.
What you’ll hear in this episode:
- At age 39, Tammy works at a small boutique hotel in NYC and loves to hike with her family
- Before infertility, she was a lot more carefree, naïve, and “a different kind of happy”
- She and her husband, an actor, had known each other for some time, but a college friend nudged them toward each other
- As a couple, they are a lot more mature than they used to be, fun-loving, and great parents who are open with each other
- Tammy’s life, with two kids in diapers, is “a fun disaster at times”
- Growing up around babies, and how a nanny job solidified the desire to share their love with children of their own
- Why a move to the Bronx gave anonymity and peace to Tammy’s struggle
- How Tammy tried for a year to get pregnant, but knew something was wrong
- Why it took FIVE doctors to find the connection between blocked Fallopian tubes and an early appendectomy
- “Being angry at someone is like drinking poison and hoping someone else dies.”
- The first RE visit in Manhattan, immediate tests, and the hope that we can be “one and done”
- In addition to blocked tubes, endometriosis, adenomyosis, and multiple uterine surgeries
- How Tammy lost all hope many times, feeling like a failure as a woman and a person
- Regaining hope, through the support of her husband
- A fond memory of the second failed IVF: “At least something was going right and we were getting one step closer.”
- Several failed IVFs, one successful embryo, and a daughter born in 2014
- Pure joy, then anxiety and fear—a phone message telling of a positive pregnancy test
- How Tammy had to change shifts at work to accommodate treatments and the morning blood work
- Why the major disconnect between infertility and appendectomy with four different doctors?
- The heartbreak of losing one twin
- The birth of a son, hysterectomy, and donated embryos
- How infertility has changed Tammy: “I’m much more empathetic, less selfish, and more aware.”
- Tammy’s advice to herself back then: “Take better care of yourself. Exercise more, sleep more, and drink a little less wine.”
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MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:
- Information about tubal factor infertility
- Information about endometriosis
- Information about adenomyosis
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