Blocked Fallopian Tubes: Tammy’s Story [SUCCESS]

May 1, 2017

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Today’s success story is about a woman named Tammy. As the sixth child in a family of seven children, she always knew she wanted to have kids. Tammy unfortunately had to see five REs before getting an official diagnosis — one that was caused by an appendectomy when she was 8 years old. Like so many others, she was devastated when her first IVF transfer didn’t work and struggled to regain a positive attitude. Join us to hear how Tammy eventually received three diagnoses, suffered two losses, had a hysterectomy, but still ended up with two beautiful children and donated her remaining embryos.

What you’ll hear in this episode:

  • At age 39, Tammy works at a small boutique hotel in NYC and loves to hike with her family
  • Before infertility, she was a lot more carefree, naïve, and “a different kind of happy”
  • She and her husband, an actor, had known each other for some time, but a college friend nudged them toward each other
  • As a couple, they are a lot more mature than they used to be, fun-loving, and great parents who are open with each other
  • Tammy’s life, with two kids in diapers, is “a fun disaster at times”
  • Growing up around babies, and how a nanny job solidified the desire to share their love with children of their own
  • Why a move to the Bronx gave anonymity and peace to Tammy’s struggle
  • How Tammy tried for a year to get pregnant, but knew something was wrong
  • Why it took FIVE doctors to find the connection between blocked Fallopian tubes and an early appendectomy
  • “Being angry at someone is like drinking poison and hoping someone else dies.”
  • The first RE visit in Manhattan, immediate tests, and the hope that we can be “one and done”
  • In addition to blocked tubes, endometriosis, adenomyosis, and multiple uterine surgeries
  • How Tammy lost all hope many times, feeling like a failure as a woman and a person
  • Regaining hope, through the support of her husband
  • A fond memory of the second failed IVF: “At least something was going right and we were getting one step closer.”
  • Several failed IVFs, one successful embryo, and a daughter born in 2014
  • Pure joy, then anxiety and fear—a phone message telling of a positive pregnancy test
  • How Tammy had to change shifts at work to accommodate treatments and the morning blood work
  • Why the major disconnect between infertility and appendectomy with four different doctors?
  • The heartbreak of losing one twin
  • The birth of a son, hysterectomy, and donated embryos
  • How infertility has changed Tammy: “I’m much more empathetic, less selfish, and more aware.”
  • Tammy’s advice to herself back then: “Take better care of yourself. Exercise more, sleep more, and drink a little less wine.”

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