Today’s bonus episode guest is Dr. Maria Rothenburger, a psychotherapist who specializes in infertility. If you haven’t already listened to it, she shared her personal infertility story in Episode 18.
Dr. Rothenburger and Heather discuss how to become your own self-advocate while battling infertility:
- Let’s start off by defining what self-advocacy is and isn’t. I think a lot of people hear ‘self-advocacy’ and think ‘confrontation,’ but that definitely isn’t accurate.
- How do you know when it’s appropriate to self-advocate? For those without much experience, what are your tips for identifying these opportunities?
- Overall, what tips do you have for easing into being a strong self-advocate?
- I’d like to go through a couple scenarios and how someone might advocate for themselves during each one.
- You’ve been unsuccessfully trying to conceive for more than a year and gone to your OB for several cycles. Your OB wants to keep trying medicated timed intercourse rather than sending you on to a RE, but you feel like you could use more intervention at this point.
- You’re at your first RE appointment, and the doctor wants to go straight to IVF, but you’re not ready.
- You’ve been prescribed a medication that you’ve heard was not the best choice for someone with your diagnosis, such as Clomid for women with endometriosis.
- You’re in the waiting room where signs are clearly posted that children are not allowed, but each time you go, at least one child is present and the staff seems not to notice.
- You’ve had two unsuccessful IUIs, and you’re ready to move on to IVF, but your doctor wants to try IUI a couple more times.
- You’ve had one or more unsuccessful IVF cycles, and you’d like to change protocols.
- You’ve been with your RE for a long time but have become unhappy about the doctor or the results.
- You feel like a number — your calls are not returned promptly (or at all) and you desire more personal attention from your treatment team.
- You want to do Eastern treatments in tandem with traditional.
- Is there anything else you’d like to add?
BONUS: Check out BONUS 17 for a discount code for some of Dr. Rothenburger’s services.